I have listened to many people struggle with the issue of “Self Esteem.” I suppose the struggle comes with the idea that self-esteem is something that can be given and not earned. Self-esteem that is given is based on what others think of us and what we should be. Self-esteem that is earned is based on what we think of ourselves and know we can achieve ourselves. True self-esteem is built upon risk, constructed over the foundations of achievement over the pain of failure. N

“When was the last time you expressed anger and regretted it?” Anger can be our friend, but when the expression of anger causes undesired and terribly painful results, it can become our enemy. We may be ashamed and even horrified that we did not exercise better control of our anger and our behavior. Anger Management  is a popular topic. There are books, articles, workshops and even a movie dealing with the subject. Managing anger is not a new topic. It has been a subject of g

In 1968, the film adaptation of "Oliver!" introduced us to the beautiful song, "Where Is Love?" Its haunting melody and heartfelt lyrics ask a question that resonates beyond the screen: Where, “Indeed”, Is love? This simple and timeless question lingers in the heart, echoing across generations and circumstances. As I ponder this relevant question for today’s world, I’m struck by how universal it remains—reaching into every facet of human life and longing. We search for love

A few years ago I introduced the concepts of perceptual dissonance and perceptual synergy . Cognitive dissonance is known as an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding two contradictory ideas simultaneously. Parents are often caught in the contradiction between what they expect of their children and what they do themselves. How many times has it been said, “Do not do what I do. Do what I say.” For ages, children have been baffled by this cognitive dissonance. Perceptual dis

This bumper-sticker immediately caught my attention, and I was also instantly curious and a little uncomfortable. It was easy to see how others mistakenly believe everything they think, but it became uncomfortable as I looked in the mirror. I also tend to believe everything I think, and my discomfort led me to do some research. I learned that the way humans perceive and interpret information is called Cognitive bias . Cognitive bias is the brain's attempt to simplify informat