“You broke that glass! What is wrong with you?” Perhaps you have heard something like this when you were a child. Or what is worse ? Perhaps you have said it as a parent. It is not uncommon that, in our attempt to chastise someone for doing something wrong, we actually deliver a message that is both confusing and even painfully destructive. Wow! So what is the problem? The peril is that we have accidentally wandered into territory that can be emotionally and even psychologic